8 Things you don’t know about your competitors.

Posted by on Jun 30, 2014 in NLP Success & Life Tips | 0 comments

1. Your competitors set goals.

Setting goals is an important component to keep you on track.
Decide what you want to achieve in the next three, six and twelve months so that you can make the right choices about which task to focus on.


2. Your competitors start early.

Training yourself to get started early can help you to get some extra work done. Successful people differentiate themselves with the norm. As an added bonus, the earlier you begin the more likely you’ll have time in the evening for a social life.

2. Your competitors rule out distractions.

Distractions are everywhere, but competitors take steps to block them out. This can be as simple as shutting the door or turning off your phone.

3. Your competitors have a clear working space.

Cross out your frustration and confusion. Having a clear working space will increase your productivity, efficiency and reduce margin of errors.


4. Your competitors are strict about spending time on each project.

Discipline is the key word to achieve your goals. Your competitors learned to set limits on how much they work on each project and draft up a schedule to pen down how much they should spend on each project each day.2.5

5. Your competitors know how to use small bits of time.

You’ve got fifteen minutes before a call to a client – what do you do? If you said ‘check Facebook’ then you may want to take a look at your competitors. They have a list of tasks that only take ten or fifteen minutes on hand at all times. Whenever they have a spare bit of time they start moving through the list. Imagine how much you could get done if you did the same.


6. Your competitors have strict working hours.

You’ve heard it before: don’t check Facebook and Twitter while working. Your competitors have heard it too, but they’re taking it to heart. Multitasking is not as easy as it seems. A new piece of information can quickly knock your schedule out of whack, putting you behind for the rest of the day. As tempting as it may be to give your feed just a quick peek, keep that new window closed.


7. Your competitors collaborate with others.

Collaborating with others is likely something your competitors do to help manage their time. Do you have too much work to get done by your next deadline? Freelancers in your social or professional network can help share the load. Create those relationships now and you may even find them sending work back when your schedule is looking a little lean.


8. Your competitors have a life!

Your competitors take time to get out with friends and family, exercise, and pursue hobbies they enjoy. If you feel you don’t have the time for these pursuits because you’re too busy working on your business, now may be the time to reexamine your time management skills.


Have you find your own competitor to push and motivate yourself?

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Programme Manager,

Mind Kinesis Management International & Mind Kinesis Investments Pte Ltd

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How to identify and avoid second-hand stress from others?

Posted by on Jun 6, 2014 in NLP Success & Life Tips | 0 comments

Hi friends,

Second-hand stress happens subconsciously in our daily lives. It can easily influence by other stressed people just like you having a common cold. In this post, you will learn how to spot second-hand stress and avoid the unnecessary stress.



But we can learn how to identify second-hand stress and not sink into it. 

Identify 1: Identify the negative people in your life

It’s usually emitted by those people closest to you, in terms of relationships and time spent together. Thus, it tends to be your spouse/partner, children, work colleagues and supervisors and anyone else you spend a lot of time with, such as close friends or even neighbours. The more empathetic a person is, the more likely they will suffer second-hand stress.



Identify 2: Recognize the situations in which second-hand stress can occur.

There are lots of times when you can unconsciously take on board another’s stress. Example:

A colleague, boss or client pressures you about a deadline that he or she perceives as urgent. You don’t believe it to be as urgent as this person insists but by the time you’ve heard his or her stress about it, you’ve joined the club.



After identifying the second-hand stress, we need to know how to avoid it. The following are the solutions that may help you to release unnecessary stress.

Solution 1: Take charge of your own emotions


Once you can recognize the times in your life when stress seems to be catching, you can begin to stop yourself from falling victim to absorbing other people’s stress.

Notice yourself mimicking stressful stances, attitudes and body language. Are you scrunching up your shoulders just like the stressful colleague? Are you screwing up your forehead with worry just like your spouse? Take a moment to notice how tense your body is and make a conscious choice to relax every part of it and shake off those negative vibes.
Solution 2: Be an atmosphere change

  • If it’s someone complaining about things, tell them something positive about themselves or the situation.
  • If they’re worried about meeting a deadline, suggest spending time together to plot out a way to reassure the worrier. You could offer to show this person how you prioritize pressing tasks.

Solution 3: Acknowledge and accept what you can’t change

  • You won’t always be able to put a positive shine on a situation or personal issue and you won’t always be able/want to be out of the presence of a stressful person or situation. In this case, you’ll need to armor yourself mentally and be prepared to remain positive and to not allow the stressful person’s outlook to color yours.
  • Stop trying to protect and comfort someone who is a source of stress when this increases your own stress. Sometimes you’ll need to call it like it is, as it’s quite possible the person bringing the stress home from work or spreading it around work, doesn’t even realize the impact that he or she is having on others. Tell the person in question about the impact his or her stress is having on you. Use “I” statements but don’t avoid it; the other person needs to understand how harmful this has become to you.

Prioritize your tasks and get it rolling ~ Have a great weekend ahead.

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Programme Manager,

Mind Kinesis Management International & Mind Kinesis Investments Pte Ltd

Reference: http://www.wikihow.com/Spot-and-Avoid-Secondhand-Stress

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