Top 10 Strategies for Making Your New Year’s Resolution Stick

Posted by on Dec 31, 2014 in NLP Success & Life Tips, Self Improvement | 0 comments

2014 is on the horizon, and most of us are scrambling to make up a few New Year’s resolutions that, frankly, we’ll probably forget about in February. Here’s how to create a resolution that actually sticks so you can better yourself this year.

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1) Focus on One Resolution

One of the first mistakes people make is planning too many resolutions. The fewer things your brain has to deal with, the better, and you’ll be able to focus all your motivation on one resolution, increasing the chances you’ll succeed.

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2) Get Someone to Hold You Accountable

 Having an “accountability buddy” is an old, yet tried-and-true tip for sticking to your resolutions. Tell your goals to a few close family and friends who will be honest with you and keep you on the right track. Heck, if you’re having trouble thinking of a good resolution, those buddies can actually help you pick one, too (since they know you best, faults and all). Don’t go too overboard, though. Remember, sometimes sharing with too many people can hinder your accomplishments.

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3) Set Ultra-Specific Goals

New Year’s resolutions are often big and general, making them hard to attain. The more specific you can be, the easier it will be to reach that goal. “Lose weight” or “get in shape” is a bad resolution; “Lose 15 pounds by March” is a good one. Setting multiple specific goals throughout the year is good, too. That way, you always have something attainable to focus on that doesn’t seem far off.

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4) Piggyback Your Resolution with Existing Habits

If your resolution involves building small habits—like, say, flossing every day or taking daily vitamins—you can “piggyback” these habits with other, already-established ones. Stick your dental floss in your shower and floss during your shower, or put your vitamin jar inside your kitchen cupboard so you always remember to take them when you eat breakfast. The easier you can form the habit, the more likely it is to stick.

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5) Give Yourself a Trial Run

Not every resolution is perfect out of the gate, so don’t hold yourself to a poorly-formed goal if it just won’t work. Give yourself a 30-day trial run to work out the kinks, where you can let yourself stumble a bit and tweak your goals to something better suited for success. Keep in mind that not all habits are formed in 21 days, as conventional wisdom says, so even after the trial run, give yourself time to sink into the habit before you start admitting defeat.

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6)Trick Your Mind

Resolutions are hard to keep without a sense of accomplishment. Having specific, gradual goals can help, but another trick is to play some mind games with yourself.even if you know you’re using it on yourself. Focus on anything that makes you feel like you’re succeeding. If you’re trying to lose weight, eating from smaller plates will make you “feel” fuller, even if you’re eating the same amount of food, for example. Do whatever you need to do to trick your mind and you’ll be well on your way to success.

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7)Visualize the End Result

As writer Rod Ebrahimi says, “focus on the carrot, not the stick”. If you’re having trouble staying motivated, focus on what you’ll get from your end goal—whether that’s feeling better at a lower weight, being able to impress your friends with your new guitar skills, or just being able to breathe now that you’ve quit smoking. Staying positive seems like common sense, but it can be hard when you’re in the middle of a big plateau.


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8) Closely Measure Your Progress

If you’ve created specific goals, then getting positive reinforcement should be easy. Every time your each one of those goals—even if it’s just a daily goal—mark it off on a checklist or calendar.

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9)Remind Yourself of Your Goals Every Day

If you’re having trouble keeping your goals at the forefront of your mind, you can use one of any number of tricks to constantly remind yourself (besides tracking your progress). Set an alarm on your phone with a message of why you’re doing this, record yourself on a webcam every day, or use dry erase markers to write your goals on your bathroom mirror.

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10)Start Right Now

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YOU WON’T BELIEVE WHAT THIS BOY CAN DO!

Posted by on Dec 18, 2014 in NLP Success & Life Tips | 0 comments

Dear Friends

Having being a speaker myself for so many years speaking to more than 40,000 people around Asia, I have some favourite questions in which I love to ask the participants to make an important point. Let us play this activity.

I want you to look at the picture of the boy shown below and ask yourself the following questions:
1. What is something special about this boy? (List 1)
2. What are the things that this boy can’t do? (List as many as possible)
3. If this boy can’t do those things that you have mentioned, what will be the life that this boy going to have? A good life or a bad life?

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From my experience, close to 100% of the participants that I have trained will say that this boy is going to have a bad life in the future. Let me show you how he looks like right now. By the way, I did not tamper this photo with any photo editing software. This young man really have no arms and legs.

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Some of you may have seen him on TV or on the Internet. His name is Nick Vuijicic. The first time I met him face to face was during this year’s motivational event called National Achievers Congress 2014 where I happened to be the speaker and I had a brief encounter with Nick.

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Through one wonderful lady called Kelly Chew, I managed to meet up with Nick Vuijicic again during a media session where Nick was sharing with the entire room his life experience and his latest brain child which is a online magazine called “Attitude is Altitude”.

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What’s IMPORTANT are 3 LIFE TRANSFORMATIONAL TIPS that I have learnt from Nick:

1. It’s NOT what you don’t have, but what you DO with what you HAVE

In case you are not aware, since Nick’s first speaking engagement at age 19, Nick has traveled around the world, sharing his story with millions, sometimes in stadiums filled to capacity, speaking to a range of diverse groups such as students, teachers, young people, business professionals and church congregations of all sizes. Today this dynamic young man has accomplished more than most people achieve in a lifetime. He’s an author, musician, actor, and his hobbies include fishing, painting and swimming. You may be wondering how is it possible that he can do things like fishing, painting and swimming without hands and legs? Look at the jaw-dropping photos below:

Nick swims ……

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He plays golf ……..

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He surfs ……

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 Yes, and he is happily married with a son.

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 So what are the things you BELIEVE you CAN DO to make a difference in your own life?

2. Attract People by Focusing on Who You Truly Can Become

During the media session, a lady from the local newspaper asked Nick how he can become a good father when he do not have hands, legs and can’t even hug his son even he wants to? This question was really very direct but Nick’s answer was professional and mind blowing. Guess what he said? Nick mentioned that even though he does not have any arms to hug his son but he will do his utmost best to become a FATHER so great that his son will come and hug him instead. As a father of 2 little girls myself, that did not come across my mind and Nick’s way of looking at his relationship between him and his son just changed my perspective of how we may choose to love our children. Check out this photo below. Anything else to say?

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 3. Being GRATEFUL. Just being Grateful!

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If you look at the 2 cups above, do you think that the cup is half empty or half full? Some of you may think it’s half empty while some of you may think that it’s half full. There are no right or wrong answers. There are only perspectives. One key thing that I have learnt after surviving my first encounter with cancer in 2010 and my most recent stage 4 cancer just a few weeks ago is that it does not matter whether the glass is half full or half empty. Be grateful that there is a glass and there is something in it. For that, I am grateful to Kelly Chew and Elim Chew who has invited me to the media session to meet Nick Vuijicic and I am glad that I will be having a coffee session sometime next week with Elim Chew (Founder of 77th Street). It’s my honour and I am grateful!

Watch a short clip of Nick Vuijicic here (I used my iPhone 4 to shoot, so forgive me for the quality) and please please support his Attitude is Altitude Magazine at www.facebook.com/NickVujicic & www.facebook.com/aiamag:

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ARE YOU A HIGH PERFORMER OR A WORKAHOLIC?

Posted by on Dec 5, 2014 in Self Improvement | 0 comments

hi friends,

To understand the difference between high performers and workaholics, I believe that there are healthier ways for us to work without sacrificing our values, the people we value, or the value we create but we, as a society, mistake workaholism for high performance, but they are two distinct ways of working.

High performance and workaholism look the same on the outside. They both look like hard work. The BIG DIFFERENCE is how the individual feels on the inside about who they are in relationships to their work.

A high performer works hard in healthy sustainable ways and feels happy and inspired.

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A workaholic works hard in unhealthy unsustainable ways and feels unhappy and burned out.

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1. Doing Business vs. Being Busy

A high performer’s #1 goal is to do business. The only thing that matters to them are results. If they can’t see a way to create value in the moment, they facilitate or strategize instead. They know that like the economy, business comes in waves, therefore, they get ready during the dips so they can capitalize during the upswings.

A workaholics’ #1 goal is to be busy. Workaholics fill any space in time with busy work because they feel insecure doing nothing. The insecurity comes from not knowing their value. They believe that the busier they are, the more important they must be. As a result, they find a way to be busy even when it’s not busy season instead of periodically hibernating throughout the days, weeks, months, quarters, and year for when the highs come.

2. Knows What’s Enough vs. Never Enough

A high perform knows what is enough. Whether we win by 1 point or 50 points, it doesn’t matter. A win is a win. High performers see more in the areas that matters, but they know what enough is in the areas that don’t matter so much. This comes from having a clear definition of success.

A workaholic doesn’t know what enough is. I’m not good enough. This isn’t good enough. I don’t have enough time. I don’t have enough support. They are always focused on more and seeing to maximize everything because they don’t really know what success means to them.

3. 100% At The Right Time vs. 110% All Of The Time

A high performer knows when to turn it up. When their number is called, they give everything they have. They don’t buy into the illusion of 110%. They know that 110% is unsustainable. Instead they focus on increasing their capacity so that their 100% is better than the competition’s 110%.

A workaholic thinks “turn down for what?” They hustle, grind, and go H.A.M. all of the time. They have difficulty prioritizing what’s important, therefore, everything is important in their mind.

4. Knows Their Value vs. Allows Others To Determine Value

A high performer knows their self-worth and can thus work with a sense a freedom. This comes from doing periodic self-evaluation of their performance so that they can constant improve. They create their own feedback loops rather than waiting on feedback from others.

A workaholic relies on external validation from their boss, colleagues, and clients and thus works with a sense of fear. They wait for external evaluations such as mid-year or annual reviews done by others to understand how well they are doing.

5. Proactive/Intentional vs. Reactive/Unintentional

A high performer is proactive about their time and work. They design their day and anchor the most meaningful and important things in time first, and then they allow fires and other unplanned events to fill in the rest of their day. They don’t allow distractions to deter their strategy.

A workaholic is reactive about their time and work. They allow other people to choose how their time gets spent working by reacting to emails, fires, unplanned events, and other distractions that arise throughout the day. If and when all of the minutia get address, they try to do what’s most meaningful.

6. Focus On What I Control vs. What I Can’t

A high performer focuses on their effort—inputs and outputs. Only the individual knows if they gave the task at hand their best. They judge themselves against their best self as opposed to others.

A workaholic focuses on the outcome and their income. Even when you think you do your best, the outcome that we occurs and the income that is derived from it is not fully in our control. Their desire to compare leads them to judge themselves using common metrics of success which aren’t always directly correlated to effort.

7. Put Self First vs. Second

A high performer puts themselves first because they know that by doing so, it allows them to serve others at a higher level. At times it appears to be selfish, but it’s actually selfless because they want to give first-class service to those they work with and for.

A workaholics puts others before themselves. This appears to be selfless, but it’s not sustainable. When we constantly give more than we have and never take time to replenish our source, we end up depleted. This behaviors is also driven by the good intention of service, but desire to be needed and be the hero counters that intention.

At the end of the day, workaholics do work to look important while high performers look for important work to do.

Author: Jullien Gordon

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