NLP SINGAPORE – LIFE AFTER CANCER

Posted by on Dec 25, 2011 in Inspirational Stories | 0 comments

Hi Friends

In about a few days time, year 2011 will be over and we will be welcoming year 2012. Have you ever looked back in time and ask yourself what have you achieved so far? You might be thinking that time really flies and while you are so busy with your daily life that you almost forgot what you have done. Or you might just be thinking about what have you achieved for the past one year? Have you been achieving what you want out of your life or have you been procrastinating and postponing most of your plans? Well, whatever that have happened or not happened, they are already in the past. What is going to happen in the future is what are you going to do about NOW!

It’s been more than 1 year after I have battled kidney cancer. I was lucky. I lived but not some of them of the patients. One of the biggest takeaway for me is the importance of TIME. That’s all we have to live the life that we have always wanted.

In this Blog, I wished to share with you how I lived my life the way I wanted a year after cancer. My intention is to inspire you to live the life that you wanted, not what others expect of you.

1) CAREER

I love my job. I really do. 2 days after I was diagnosed with cancer, my life goes on. Some may be thinking that I am crazy but I was determined to live life as normal as possible. I run my trainings as usual, launched my 1st book titled ‘Do You Have What IT Takes To Be BOSS?’ and was interviewed by The Straits Times for having the intention of donating ALL sales proceeds of the books to The Straits Times School Pocket Fund.

A month after a massive surgery to remove my tumour, I was back to work even though I was not supposed to. I simply missed my life. My NLP Trainings carried on and I successfully launched 2 brands: Mind Kinesis NLP Academy (which specialised in NLP Training) and Mind Kinesis Value Investing Academy, which has the FIRST Singapore Value Investing Programme that is recommended by Mary Buffett, the Internationally Acclaimed Author & Speaker of the International Best Sellers ‘Buffettology’, ‘Tao of Warren Buffett’, ‘The Management Secrets of Warren Buffett’ and my company was featured in The ShareInvestment Magazine. We are now collaborating with huge partners in Singapore to launch some of the biggest events in Asia in 2012 as well as 2 new product launches. It will be an exciting new year! 

2) PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT

The journey to Mastery does not have a destination. It’s an Ultra-Ironman Race where we should never stop learning. That’s how we grow and get better each year, so that we in turn, we can help others. Despite the busy schedule, I am happy to have successfully completed 4 Certification Trainings this year in which one took place in Brighton, United Kingdom where I have met new friends from all parts of the world. One of my Mexican friend, Agustin, even flew from Mexico to take part in my Value Investing Programme (VIP). It was awesome seeing him. On average, I sticked to my plan of reading at least 2 personal development articles per day with posting of some on my company’s Fanpage at NLP Singapore (www.facebook.com/nlpinsingapore) and Value Investing Academy (www.facebook.com/valueinvestingacademy). In total, I would have read more than 700 articles in a year.

3) HEALTH

This is the most important of all. However, most of us have ignored it and keep postponing exercising. I want to jog but I do not like jogging. So what I did was to tag a worthwhile purpose to it – Run with a Purpose. The most memorable run I had was the ‘Run for Hope’ 10km run where I did a few months back and I bumped onto Dr William Tan, one of my role model in terms of fighting spirit. In case you do not know who Dr William Tan is, just imagine a man on a wheel chair that does his tons of marathons not only on land but on ice, yes, on ice in Antartica. Unfortunately, he was diagnosed with Cancer and he is till undergoing treatment. The doctor has advised him to not do his marathon anymore. Guess what he did. He switched to Table Tennis. He epitomised the Human Spirit.

I also picked up one sport in which I wanted to do for a long time – Muay Thai. I loved Martial Arts since I was a kid and I have done Shorinji Kempo, Judo & Nam Wah Pai (Black Black 1st Dan). Great to start learning to kick butts or my butts being kicked :)

4) SOCIAL & CULTURAL

My goal each year was to run a charity event for my preferred organization with a cause. One of the memorable one was that I organized a event for children who are beneficiaries of the Children Cancer Foundation. It was a simple event where we gather children who have survived cancer to play some games with scientific toys. Their parents came along and we had great fun. What’s meaningful about this event is that the parents appreciate my intention and they said ‘Thanks!”. Nothing is more heart-warming than that. For 2012, one of the organization that I target to help is Tan Tock Seng Hospice Care Centre. This is an organization where it is helping patients with a life span of not more than 12 months. It was also the same organization that has helped my mum when she was diagnosed with terminal stage lung cancer and was given 3 months to live. I was too poor then to give back after graduating from NUS with a huge debt years back, but now I could. It’s time to pay it forward! 

Other than doing things for a social purpose, I spent time with my friends as well. In case you do not know, most of my friends are my trainees and my trainees are my friends. This may be one of the reason why people love to attend my NLP Trainings or Value Investing Trainings. I can take their cause seriously and personally. Please watch one of our Yacht Gathering Videro here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mEhZixXvl6k&context=C3cd01b8ADOEgsToPDskKGEnnxlNvi7ccOgLtRVbyt

5) FAMILY & HOME

Well, I intentionally leave this segment to the last. No matter how much fortune I have made, how others perceived me as successful or how much glory that I had, are these really important?

I was lying on my death bed more than a year ago, and guess what comes to my mind? I have always dreamt of having  happy family with 2 children. To me, this will complete my life. Unfortunately, after I had my 1st child and wanted to have a 2nd one, I was diagnosed with Kidney Cancer. My world collapsed. Nothing appears to matters anymore other than just spending a moment more with my family. My dream no longer can be fulfilled ……………….

It means more than a year now, and you know what? As I am typing this Blog on Christmas Day, I just had my 2nd little girl yesterday wher she was born on the eve of Christmas. A great Christmas Gift indeed!

If you are reading this Blog now, let me share with you a of my favorite quote by Dr Randy Paush who passed away because of terminal stage pancreatic cancer:

“Live your life properly, and the dreams will come to you” ~ Dr Randy Paush, ‘The Last Lecture’.

If you have anything to share with me personally, “Like” us at www.facebook.com/nlpinsingapore OR add me at www.facebook.com/caydenchang.nlp.

Stay Hungry, Stay Foolish!

Cheers!

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Have a GREAT Christmas and an Awesome Year ahead!

Cayden Chang
Founder & Director, Mind Kinesis Management International
BSc(Hons), MSc
Lifelong Learner Award 2008 Honouree
Co-author, “Do You Have What It Takes To Be BOSS?”

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NLP SINGAPORE – WHAT IS LIFE?

Posted by on Oct 24, 2011 in Inspirational Stories | 0 comments

Hi Friends

It’s 2:30am right now and I just managed to settle down after our Graduates’ Gathering for my company’s Value Investing Gathering and I  saw this article titled ‘S’pore girl dies after long battle with cancer’. I have read the story at Wan Bao a few days ago but reading it again reminded me of how fragile and how important life can be.

As I am typing this, there will be hundreds and probably thousands in the world that are fighting cancer. For those who are terminal and doctors have pronounced that they have months or weeks to live, they really live each day as if it was their last. Every single day, before they sleep, they will pray that they will be able to open their eyes once more to see the green trees, the leaves that danc……e with the wind, the blue skies with curious-looking clouds, the sound of the chirping birds, the feel of the humid air and the occasional breeze that carress them, and most importantly, being able to see their love ones ……. just one more time …… just one more time. I was once in their shoes. I wished these people will survive the ordeal and that continues to be my wish …..

An exerpt from Steve Jobs Commencement Speech in Stanford University:

“No one wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don’t want to die to get there. And yet death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it. And that is as it should be, because Death is very likely the single best invention of Life. It is Life’s change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new. Right now the new is you, but someday not too long from now, you will gradually become the old and be cleared away. Sorry to be so dramatic, but it is quite true.

Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma  which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”

Stay Hungry, Stay Foolish ….. I wish that for all of you.

Cheers!

Chat with me by attending our Free NLP Workshop.

Have a GREAT Week ahead!

Cayden Chang
Founder & Director, Mind Kinesis Management International
BSc(Hons), MSc
Lifelong Learner Award 2008 Honouree
Co-author, “Do You Have What It Takes To Be BOSS?”
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NLP SINGAPORE – WHY NEGATIVE IS POSITIVE (A LITTLE TRIBUTE TO STEVE JOBS)

Posted by on Oct 5, 2011 in Inspirational Stories, NLP Success & Life Tips | 2 comments

Dear Friends

I was sitting calmly in a small waiting area in National Cancer Centre for my CT Scan in a blue robe given by the centre. There was an elderly man around 55+ and an elderly woman about the same age waiting there too. The woman started to talk and asked the man what cancer he had. The man replied that he has bladder cancer and how the cancer has affected his life. Suddenly, he stood up and lifted his robe to reveal what’s inside. Both of us were shocked. He showed us his external “bladder”, a plastic looking bag where his urine was stored. He then shared that he could not pee and has to empty this bag every time it’s full. He then continued to share how his life was affected by Bladder Cancer. The woman then turned to me and asked me what cancer I have. I told her Kidney Cancer and I am here to do my regular CT Scan. I shared my case briefly while both the man and the woman listened attentively. After listening to me, the woman asked both of us this question – “Why must there be Cancer in this world?”. There was nothing but silence. I then asked her what condition was she suffering from. She replied: “I have Bone Cancer”. She paused for a short while and she continued: “And it’s terminal”. She continued to share how her legs started to become weak and right now, it’s completely numb. It’s like walking on 2 wooden legs, with no sensation at all. While listening to her story, I started to get emotional and the nurse broke my state by calling out my name. I was next to do the CT Scan. I walked into the cold looking room, lied on the bed as instructed by the Radiologist and a fluid was injected into my body. It felt cold at first at the location where they injected the fluid but the hot sensation starts to move up to my head and slowly down to my whole body. The bed with me on it was then moved into a huge cylinder where I could hear a noise that sounds like a spinning motor. My mind wasn’t there. I was still affected by the elderly woman’s story and you know what ?

Have you ever been affected by what people said about you, how you looked like, how you behave and so on? I sure do. When I was in high school and JC, I remembered I was being labelled with negative remarks such as “Skinny”, “Skeletor (an evil character in the cartoon ‘He-Man’,  “Slow Learner”, “Ugly” by some class-mates. Initially, it started as a joke but somehow it slowly dawn on me that I was affected by these negative remarks. The more the labels were pasted on me, the more I believed they were true. That really affected me and my self-esteem. It went into a negative cycle. My grades fell when I was in JC and I went into bad company. What happened next? Read more at http://www.nlpinsingapore.com/nlp-singapore/nlp-singapore-3-secrets-of-success.

Years have passed. Now, I have a beautiful & happy family, I run my own company & I am finacially free, and I have a huge number of wonderful and positive friends. As I looked back, those negative remarks and criticism were the best things that have ever happened in my life. Throughout this years, these negative remarks serve as a positive driving force. It made me more hungry, more driven to prove that all things are possible. It makes me realised that it’s our life that we are living, not others. What others say or label is immaterial because we should live our life based on our own expectation and beliefs, NOT other people’s beliefs. If we do not accept what they say, then we will not be affected by them. Do you have such people around you? If you do, let me share with you 2 questions that you may ask yourself – “Are these people important in your life?”, “If not, why do you allow the remarks of such unimportant people affect you?”. Well, I recalled recently when I was attending a training, a classmate asked me this question sarcastically “Are you Hyper?” after an activity. I kept quiet. The question reminded me of 2 things:

1) How one of my NLP Graduates’ son who has ADHD was being laughed at for being too active (they labelled his son as “Hyper”)

2) The negative remarks that I have received during my younger days.

Do I care about the “Hyper” remarks? I DON”T. Did I learnt something? I DID! Get rid of ALL negative people in your life and surround yourself with positive and supportive people. If they are unimportant, keep it that way which reminded me of what Steve Jobs said in his year 2005 Commencement Speech in Stanford University – “Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.” Unfortunately, I got to hear a piece of sad news that Steve Jobs has passed away. I read an article about him and there is this quote: “Being the richest man in the cemetery doesn’t matter to me … Going to bed at night saying we’ve done something wonderful … that’s what matters to me.” ~ Steve Jobs. My Heart mourns for him and he continues to live in my heart.

I went back to National Cancer Centre again last month ……… to collect my CT Scan Result which was done in August. It showed NEGATIVE in the test results, which means POSITIVE in my life – I get to LIVE ……. AGAIN. Life goes on for me, enjoying every moment of it. If there are any NEGATIVE moments or people in your life, you can be sure that they are there to teach you something POSITIVE!

“Stay Hungry, Stay Foolish” ~ Steve Jobs.

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Have a GREAT Week ahead!

Cayden Chang
Founder & Director, Mind Kinesis Management International
BSc(Hons), MSc
Lifelong Learner Award 2008 Honouree
Co-author, “Do You Have What It Takes To Be BOSS?”
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NLP 101 – VALUES – YOUR INNER DRIVING FORCE

Posted by on Jan 2, 2011 in Inspirational Stories, NLP Success & Life Tips | 0 comments

Hi Friends

As I was walking in Shopping Malls today, I realised that almost all the Christmas Trees have disappeared and some shops have already started selling Chinese New Year Decorations. What was missing was probably the Chinese New Year songs :)

Well, I have always appreciated time as that’s the only thing that we have and money can’t buy. This is more true after I was lucky to survived Renal Cancer. It was an unforgetable year in 2010 more so for me. Now I have 2 birthdays to celebrate now. My original birthday and my 2nd ‘birthday’ (10th Aug 2010, a day after National Day) where I had my surgery to have my tumourous left kidney removed.  I felt as though I was reborn again. It was a good reminder what’s important in our life. I am going to have this reminder for the rest of my life just by looking at the 20cm wound after the surgery whenever I bathe. I looked at it positively. I remembered that before I was discharged from the hospital previsouly, another patient by the name of John, in the same ward told me – ‘I believed that after you have walked out from here, you will inspire others with your story’.

In NLP, Values (what’s important in our lives) drive us and motivates us. I have encountered too many people who have problems with procrastination, fear, worry, etc. One important factor that can helped them is for them to know EXACTLY what’s important to them. If it’s EXTREMELY IMPORTANT and one’s life or a loved one’s life depend on it, all expectation and fear will just fade away. If it’s UNIMPORTANT, procrastination and giving up is a common phenomena. Don’t waste your time then. Do something else that is more meaningful and makes you happy. In addition, our Values will change across time. Most apparent is money. As we grow older, yes, money is still important probably to maintain our lifestyle and our health, but what we may find more important is our health and family. If health and family is more important, these became our focus and our activities will surround these focus.

A few days ago, I came across this TV Show called ‘Life Reconstructed’ on Channel U. I watched the 1st episode and you can watch the online version here: http://video.xin.msn.com/watch/video/life-reconstructed-episode-1/1gqz83lev. This is another reminder of what may be important in our life. Salute to the lady, Tania Hoaching, who started the non-profit organization home for the unfortunate children. She knows exactly what’s important in her life and how her work will change the lives of others.

Do you know what’s important in your life?

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Cayden Chang
Founder & Director, Mind Kinesis Management International
BSc(Hons), MSc
Lifelong Learner Award 2008 Honouree
Co-author, “Do You Have What It Takes To Be BOSS?”

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NLP SINGAPORE – WILL I ESCAPED DEATH FOR THE 4TH TIME? (Part 1 of 3)

Posted by on Aug 19, 2010 in Inspirational Stories | 3 comments

The Lion was walking alone in the tunnel, a narrow dark tunnel. It was so dark that he can’t see its own feet. But he has to continue to move forward, hoping that he would catch a glimpse of light. There was no turning back ………

It was 21st Jul 2010. It was a day where I need to see a specialist for review at Singapore General Hospital after a CT Scan 2 days back. The sky was cloudy ……….. As I laid on the clinic bed, the doctor did a quick scan and gave his diagnosis of the my previous pain in my right waist. He told that it’s alright.

“How about the lump on the left that you have mentioned previously?” I asked the doctor.

“I will need to talk to you about this. Let’s talk over there.” replied the doctor.

The sky was getting darker and darker ……….. and it appears that a storm is brewing outside.

I was brought to a sofa, the doctor launched his laptop application and showed me the picture of the CT Scan and he started explaining.

“As you can see over here (he pointed to the scan), you can see the lump ……………… This lump is over 15 cm and it’s an extension from your left kidney. If you compare the colour shades with your right kidney, this lump has uneven shades whereas your normal right kidney has an even shade of colour. This means that the cells on your left kidney are not normal kidney tissues.” the doctor continued “…….. and 99% of the chance that it is malignant.”

There was a sudden outburst of thunder.

It was a shock. I was just stunned by the news and I found myself quiet most of the time while my wife hold my hands tightly while the doctor continued his explanation of my diagnosis. I wasn’t listening to the doctor. Questions started to shout inside my head.

“Why this has to happen?”

“My mum died of lung cancer and why I am next?”

“Why?”

“What should I do?”

“My daughter is only 2.5 years old?”

“I am still young?”

The questions never seem to end.

“We do not know the extent of the spread of the carcinoma. What we need to do now is to go for further scan of the bones of your whole body and other organs in your thoracic area. If it’s localised, we will have to remove this tumour and you will be fine. If it has spread, we will have to decide another course of action” the doctor continued. “What I will arrange for you is ………”

Another sudden clap of thunder and it started to rain heavily. The Lion continued to move forward inside the tunnel. He could hear the thunder and the heavy rain but he just could not see anything. It appears to be his worst nightmare and it really was.

The story continues …………………..

Cayden Chang
Founder & Director
BSc(Hons), MSc
Lifelong Learner Award 2008 Honouree
Co-author, “Do You Have What It Takes To Be BOSS?”
http://www.mindkinesis.com

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